Unity can be overrated



If you’re the only one in the room who actually senses unity, and everyone else in the general vicinity is not only caught up in their ideas about being alone and lonely, but also deeply invested in proving to themselves and everyone that there is no unity, that they are alone, and that no one can possibly understand them, it can be a lonely business, this unity thing.

After that unexpectedly awake handful of moments, about 30 years ago, I went through a fairly long period of feeling more alone than I ever had before. I had this experience, this total immersion in ALL, and I wanted nothing more than to spread it around and share it with others.

But people can take things the wrong way. And they can think that your experience of unity simply means that you have no boundaries worth respecting.


Needless to say, it was an interesting couple of years after that moment.

I continued to have those periods of intense bliss and total unity — usually in the morning while I was getting ready to go to work. And I carried it with me through the day.

And it was a strange disconnect, to be surrounded by people who seemed to want nothing more than to reinforce their perceptions of separation, division, alienation, and being anything but one.

What do you have to talk about, when everyone is so invested in proving to themselves and others, that you really have nothing in common?